Orgasms Are Just Sexual Spasms!
That first sip of hot cocoa on a chilly winter night in a cuddly blanket? Flipping onto the cool side of a pillow on a humid night? A big tumbler full of yummy lassi after chhole bhature? Getting up from an interrupted 7 hour sleep feeling refreshed and well rested? Having your favorite ice-cream on a particularly melting hot day? Finally letting out that long awaited sneeze? Yes, all these seem to be orgasmic, but only figuratively!
The climax of sexual excitement, characterized by intensely pleasurable feelings centered in the genitals mostly ending with a sweet release is typically considered as an orgasm, literally.
Climax, Contract and Relax
An orgasm is what usually happens when you reach the height of sexual arousal. It usually feels really really good. When you have an orgasm — aka cum or climax — sexual tension increases until it reaches a peak, and pressure in your body and is released through the genitals.
Orgasms don’t feel the same for every person, or every time you have one — some are very intense, some are very mild, and some are in-between. They vary for a number of reasons, including how comfortable you are, how sexually excited you are, and how much sexual tension you built up before you had your orgasm.
However, there are a few physical signs of an orgasm. It’s either one of the following, if not all. The muscles in your vagina or penis, as well as your anus, contract (squeeze) about once per second, 5-8 times. Your heart rate and breathing levels also go up. You may have “sex flush” — your chest, neck, and face change colour for a short amount of time. Orgasms release endorphins (feel-good hormones), so you might feel sleepy, relaxed, and happy afterwards — this is why some people orgasm to relieve pain, stress, or help them go to sleepy.
Sexual Scientific Spasms
Okay, let’s get into science a little now, the climactic physiological state of heightened sexual excitement and gratification that is followed by relaxation of sexual tensions and the body’s muscles is considered an “orgasm”. An abrupt increase in pulse rate and blood pressure, and spasms of the pelvic muscles that cause contractions of the lower vagina in the vagina owner’s body and contractions of the urethra and ejaculation by the penis owner.
Generally, the differences between a penis owner and a vagina owner’s orgasms are that the climax in the vagina owner’s body can be physiologically interrupted more easily than the penis owner’s response, and the penis owner’s orgasm is usually accompanied by ejaculation of semen. Orgasms elicit strong activity in the nucleus accumbens, the reward center, which also lights up in response to nicotine, chocolate, cocaine and music; in the cerebellum, which helps coordinate muscle tension; and parts of the hypothalamus, which releases oxytocin, the trust and social-bonding hormone. Too much? Let me rephrase it in a more legible sentence. In the Orgasm Orchestra, the genitalia may be the instruments, but the central nervous system is the conductor.
Cum as you are!
Don’t fret if this doesn’t sound like something you’ve experienced before because some people can have orgasms quickly and easily, others need more time and effort. This doesn’t mean anything but how each body is unique and has individual needs. You might be able to have an orgasm in some circumstances but not others, depending on who you’re with or what you’re doing. Everyone’s body is different and there’s not one “right way” to have an orgasm.
Try not to put any pressure on yourself or your partner(s) to have an orgasm. Not everybody can have orgasms during sex or with other people around. Or sometimes the circumstances just aren’t right (you’re nervous, tired, or distracted for example). Some people never have orgasms at all. If you and/or your partner don’t have an orgasm, it doesn’t mean you’re not into each other or you’re bad at sex. Sex and masturbation can be intimate, enjoyable, and fun with or without orgasms. So just focus on cumming as you are, everything else comes later!
Cover Illustration by Abhilasha Muttoo