Have You Heard Of These Sexual Fetishes And Kinks?
You’ll often hear people refer to their interests as sexual kinks or fetishes. But what exactly are fetishes and sexual kinks? And why do people have them?
All fetishes are kinks, but not all kinks are fetishes. “A fetish is a sexual attraction to inanimate objects, body parts, or situations not commonly viewed as being sexual in nature, while a kink is a broader term that includes a variety of sexual interests, behaviors, preferences, and fantasies that are thought to be outside of the mainstream. People can get in their heads about whether it’s weird, but let yourself off the hook about any judgments.” As long as it’s consensual and pleasurable, you’re doing it right.
Why do people have kinks and fetishes?
To begin with, it is essential for us to know why people have kinks and fetishes. Sexual fantasy is highly varied across the spectrum, so fetishes might simply be one element of our diversity in terms of sexual interest and arousal. That means we’ll have different tastes just like we do in food. Different people have different reasons for being involved in the fetish or lifestyle. There are those who are into it for the sexual gratification, and that can be widely varied even by itself.
For some people it can be degrading and where they want to be embarrassed or even very BDMS in nature. And for others it isn’t sexual all. Generally speaking, a typical case may be somebody happens upon an object by accident or through exposure to leather, or dolls, or part of a human that’s nonsexual, such as a foot or toe, and finds it pleasurable, so they continue using it in a sexual way. There’s a theory that these people may be more open to developing fetishes… because they’re sexually excited more easily.
Sexual experiences during or around puberty are another factor that can lead to fetishes. If an object was pleasant or salient to early sexual experience we may associate that object with sex, and the use of it continues on with sexual behavior. A connection between the mind and body also has an impact. Every sexual experience is generally physical and psychological. As we learn to associate an object or experience with arousal, the two become tied together, so ultimately we develop fetishes through experience.
Different forms of kinks and fetishes
Just like we have different sexual fantasies, people have different kinks and festishes. Here are some fetishes and kinks-
A Greek term, klismaphilia, refers to the pleasure someone experiences from relieving themselves while using an enema, they enjoy the pressurized feeling.
This one’s exactly what it sounds like—some people are aroused by pregnant people. The starting point is usually porn, but sometimes, simply seeing expecting mothers, particularly during childhood, is what sets things off.
Also known as a hand fetish. A person into quirofilia is especially drawn to fingers and hands. Quirofilia may involve an attraction to certain parts of the hands, manicures or certain acts performed by the hands, from washing dishes to handjobs.
A foot fetish means you’re sexually aroused by feet, also referred to as foot partialism. People with foot fetishes may be attracted to seeing feet in certain footwear such as high heels, they might enjoy interactions with feet including massaging or toe-sucking, while some prefer embellishments on the feet such as a fresh pedicure or a tattoo.
A fascination with mirrors, or more specifically, watching yourself in sexual situations is known as katoptronophilia.
Also known as known as paraphilic infantilism, this one describes someone who derives sexual pleasure from dressing up as, or acting like, a baby. Oftentimes there’s a mommy figure or a daddy figure and this individual is playing the role of a child. Maybe they’re being fed or nursed, or wearing or using diapers, or engaging in other infantile behaviors.
This involves people who either want to watch a woman who’s lactating or consume her breast milk. A lactophilic relationship might involve someone who’s expressing breastmilk—the partner derives sexual pleasure from suckling the person in what’s referred to as a “nursing relationship.”
Attraction to vomit—is real. This can mean you’re attracted to your own vomit or someone else’s; turned on by watching and listening to the vomit, or doing the vomiting yourself.
It being sexually aroused by having sexual contact with a corpse. The probable reason for this is that they have a hard time meeting live partners, so they may be interested in the dead partially for that reason.
A fetish for people who are sexually aroused by being urinated on, also colloquially known as ‘water sports.’ There may be a BDSM element at work. The person getting peed on is generally submissive to the other, and having someone’s pee drip down your body might also evoke some feelings of humiliation.
In a nutshell, having kinks or fetishes should be normalized and one needs to talk about it openly to at least their partners. If you’re interested in exploring a kink or sexual fetish with your partner, communication is key. Set aside time for this conversation when you are both relaxed and when you are getting along.
Make sure to come informed. Do your research and share well-informed and reliable information. Share articles, videos, books, and information from sex researchers, academics, educators, and therapists normalizing and supporting your interest. You essentially want to put their fears and anxieties at ease. Exploring any type of sexual kink or fetish will always require consent and patience. It is essential for one to provide that to their partner in order to achieve acceptance and its pleasure in the best way possible.